Broken Heroes #1 - Saul: The Trap of Comparison

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In this message from 1 Samuel 18:5-12, Dr. Kurt Bjorklund exposes how comparison traps us in jealousy and envy—sins that Scripture warns can separate us from God's kingdom. Discover how embracing what Christ has done for us frees us from the toxic thoughts "they have it better" and "I deserve better," enabling us to receive life with joy and trust in God's provision.

 

Summary and Application

We've all been there—scrolling through social media, attending a gathering, or simply observing life around us when that familiar sting hits: They have it so much better than I do. What starts as an innocent observation can quickly spiral into something far more dangerous than we realize.

In his message on King Saul, Kurt reveals a sobering truth about comparison that challenges our tendency to minimize this struggle. As he puts it, "What I'd like to do is just talk about two thoughts that serve as traps. They're lures, the comparison trap."

Biblical Heroes Aren't Perfect Role Models

Before diving into Saul's story, Kurt makes an important clarification about how we should read Old Testament narratives. Rather than viewing these characters as perfect examples to emulate, we need to understand that "the Old Testament and the New Testament is not a story of all of these heroes that we're to emulate. It's the story of people who were broken."

This perspective shifts everything. Noah, Abraham, Moses, David—they all had significant moral failures. As Daniel 9:18 reminds us, "We do not make requests of you because we are righteous, but because of your great mercy." These stories point us to our need for God's grace, not our ability to be perfect.

Trap #1: "They Have It Better"

The first comparison trap is the seemingly innocent thought that others simply have advantages we lack. Kurt illustrates this with the story of football coaches Jim and John Harbaugh's father, who would regularly ask his sons, "Who has it better than us?" until they enthusiastically shouted, "Nobody!"

But Saul's response to David's success shows us where this thinking leads. When the women sang, "Saul has slain his thousands and David his ten thousands" (1 Samuel 18:7), Saul's immediate reaction was anger and suspicion. The text tells us, "The refrain displeased him greatly. They've credited David with ten thousands, but me with only thousands, what more can he get but the kingdom?" (1 Samuel 18:8).

This progression from comparison to anger to broken relationships is telling. As Kurt observes, "What happens is we stop having joy in whatever we have. We stop having joy for other people because we start to say they have it better than I have it."

The spiritual danger becomes clear when we consider Romans 12:14-15, which calls us to "rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep." Comparison makes this biblical command nearly impossible to follow authentically.

Trap #2: "I Deserve Better"

The second trap runs even deeper than the first. When we move from "they have it better" to "I deserve better," we're making a theological statement about God himself. Kurt explains, "As soon as I start saying, I deserve better, I'm not just simply wanting something better, but what I'm doing is I'm saying God, you have somehow shorted me, and God, you owe me."

This attitude reveals itself in countless ways—from children tallying Christmas gifts to adults nursing resentment over career setbacks or relationship disappointments. Kurt's illustration of his wife's two dogs perfectly captures this dynamic: the larger dog was perfectly content with his orange ball until the smaller dog received a yellow ball, then suddenly his own ball wasn't good enough anymore.

The Serious Sin of Comparison

Perhaps most sobering is Kurt's reminder that comparison isn't just psychologically unhealthy—it's spiritually dangerous. Galatians 5:19-21 lists jealousy and envy among the "acts of the flesh," warning that "those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God."

"The problem with comparison isn't just that it's unhealthy and it breaks relationships," Kurt emphasizes, "it's that it's an affront to God. It's a sin."

Paul David Tripp's words capture the destructive power of this sin: "The driven watchful envy of a horizontal pleasure oriented heart will make us crazy. It will not only rob us of our satisfaction and joy, but it will make us more like brutes than friends. It will eat out our hearts and consume our souls."

Jesus: The Greater Jonathan

The antidote to comparison isn't simply trying harder to be content. It's found in understanding what Jesus has done for us. Jonathan, who was 27 years older than David and the rightful heir to the throne, chose to step aside and support David rather than resent him. This points us to Jesus, who "being the very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used for his own advantage. Rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant" (Philippians 2:6-7).

Kurt explains the connection: "Jesus gave up his rightful privileges so that you and I could have a relationship with God, so that we could be made much of. And when we come to embrace that, then we're able to be free from saying, I deserve better."

Freedom Through God's Provision

The promise of Philippians 4:19 that "My God will supply all your needs" becomes our anchor. But this includes understanding that "God leads through what He provides, but He also leads sometimes through what it seems like He doesn't provide."

When we truly grasp God's goodness toward us in Christ, Kurt suggests, we can say, "Yeah, they might have it better, but I'm okay. I don't deserve better because God is supplying all my needs, and sometimes he even supplies in what I don't see."

This freedom allows us to "live and receive life more joyfully" without the constant trap of comparison stealing our contentment and damaging our relationships.

Practical Application Questions

As you reflect on this message, consider these two questions:

  1. Where in your life are you most tempted to think "they have it better" or "I deserve better"? Take time to identify specific areas—relationships, career, health, or circumstances—where comparison tends to rob you of joy. How might viewing these situations through the lens of God's goodness in Christ change your perspective?

  2. How can you practically follow Romans 12:14-15 to "rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep" this week? Think of someone in your life who recently experienced success or blessing. What specific action can you take to genuinely celebrate with them rather than allowing comparison to create distance in your relationship?

Dr. Kurt Bjorklund

Kurt is the Senior Pastor at Orchard Hill Church and has served in that role since 2005. Under his leadership, the church has grown substantially, developed the Wexford campus through two significant expansions, and launched two new campuses. Orchard Hill has continued to serve the under-served throughout the community.

Kurt’s teaching can be heard weekdays on the local Christian radio and his messages are broadcast on two different television stations in Pittsburgh. Kurt is a sought-after speaker, speaking at several Christian colleges and camps. He has published a book with Moody Press called, Prayers For Today.

Before Orchard Hill, Kurt led a church in Michigan through a decade of substantial growth. He worked in student ministry in Chicago as well as served as the Director of Outreach/Missions for Trinity International University. Kurt graduated from Wheaton College (BA), Trinity Divinity School (M. Div), and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary (D. Min).

Kurt and his wife, Faith, have four sons.

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