Why did this happen to me? #2 - When Answers Don’t Satisfy

Description

Dr. Kurt Bjorklund explores Job 4-14, dismantling three myths about suffering: that doing good guarantees good outcomes, that repentance ends all pain, and that understanding precedes trust. Through Job's story, he reveals how the cross of Christ breaks the retributive principle—Jesus received what we deserve so we could receive what He deserved, offering real hope beyond our circumstances.

 

Summary and Application

When life takes an unexpected turn for the worse, we often find ourselves asking, "Why is this happening to me?" It's a question as old as humanity itself, and one that the Book of Job addresses head-on. In his message on Job 4-14, Kurt explores three persistent myths about suffering that Job's friends propagated—myths that many of us still believe today.

Myth #1: If You Do Good, You Get Good; If You Do Bad, You Get Bad

Job's friend Eliphaz confidently declared, "Consider now: Who, being innocent, has ever perished? Where were the upright ever destroyed? As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it" (Job 4:7-8). His logic seemed airtight: Job must have sinned to deserve his suffering.

This retributive principle—the idea that God operates on a strict cause-and-effect system—appears throughout Scripture. Galatians 6 teaches that "whatsoever a person sows, this he or she will also reap." Proverbs offers wisdom about making good choices and expecting good outcomes. These principles are generally true, but as Kurt points out, "The problem comes when we make it an equation and we make it an expectation."

Kurt illustrates this with the example of healthy eating. Generally, those who eat nutritiously live healthier lives than those who don't. Yet we all know people who ate poorly for decades and lived long lives, while others ate "bird seed and vegetables" and still got sick. The principle works as a general guide, not an absolute guarantee.

Warren Wiersbe captured the danger of this thinking: "If you obey God only because He blesses you, the shallowness of your faith will show up in a time of testing." When we serve God primarily for the blessings we expect to receive, our worship becomes conditional and transactional rather than genuine.

Myth #2: If You Turn to God, Your Suffering Will Cease

Job's friends repeatedly suggested that repentance would end his troubles. Zophar urged, "If you put away the sin that is in your hand and allow no evil to dwell in your tent, then, free of fault, you will lift up your face. You will stand firm without fear" (Job 11:14-15). Just pray harder, believe stronger, and God will fix everything.

Kurt shares a painful story that illustrates the damage this theology causes. A man whose wife died of cancer explained why he couldn't return to his former church: "At the church, we believed that if we prayed enough and believed enough, that God would heal my wife. So the reality is, when I go back to that church, I have failed to have enough faith, and that's why my wife died."

This theology creates what Kurt calls "double pain"—the pain of loss compounded by the pain of false guilt. "Job didn't just have the indignity of all the loss in his life, but he had his friends coming along and saying, 'And you deserved it.'"

The truth is more nuanced: sometimes we face consequences for our choices, and sometimes God allows suffering for reasons we don't understand. Turning to God isn't a magic formula to end all hardship. Instead, we worship God because He is God—not because He gives us what we want.

Myth #3: If I Understood, Then I Could Trust More

Job struggled with God's silence and inscrutability: "When He passes me, I cannot see Him. When He goes by, I cannot perceive Him" (Job 9:11). His friends' attempts to explain God's ways only frustrated him more. Yet at the heart of this struggle was a myth many of us believe: if we could just understand why, we could endure better.

Philip Yancey offers perspective on God's non-answer to Job: "Maybe it was God's recognition of a plain fact of life: a tiny creature on a tiny planet in a remote galaxy simply could not fathom the grand design of the universe. You might as well try to describe colors to a person born blind, or a Mozart symphony to a person born deaf."

C.S. Lewis, writing after his wife's death, described the feeling of God's absence in suffering: "A door slammed in your face and the sound of bolting and double bolting on the inside. After that, silence... There are no lights in the windows. It might be an empty house."

Yet as Paul Tournier observed, "Where there's no longer any opportunity for doubt, there is no longer any opportunity for faith." Faith isn't about having all the answers—it's about taking the next step even when we can't see the path clearly.

The Hope Beyond the Myths

The critical flaw in Job's friends' theology was that they didn't account for the cross. Jesus—who never sinned and did everything right—received the worst possible outcome. Yet that horrible outcome became the best possible news for humanity.

As Kurt explains, "If God really worked on a retributive principle, then our hope, our expectation, could not be what it is." The gospel message is that Christ took what we deserve so we could receive what He deserved. This is grace, and it shatters the myth that we always get what we deserve.

Job himself seemed to grasp this hope before the cross even occurred. Despite everything, he declared, "Though He slay me, yet I will hope in Him" (Job 13:15). He found hope not in understanding God's ways or manipulating outcomes through prayer, but in trusting God's character.

Kurt concludes with the distinction between optimism and hope: "Optimism says, 'God, You'll change my circumstance.' Hope says, 'God, I know that one day You will make things right and You will make the hard things glorious in their own way.'"

Application Questions

  1. Which of these three myths about suffering do you find yourself most tempted to believe when facing difficulty? How might believing in the cross of Christ—that Jesus got what we deserve so we could get what He deserves—help you let go of that myth?

  2. Can you identify a situation in your life where you're waiting for understanding before you'll trust God? What would it look like to take one step of faith into the darkness, trusting that the light will come even if you don't see it today?

Dr. Kurt Bjorklund

Kurt is the Senior Pastor at Orchard Hill Church and has served in that role since 2005. Under his leadership, the church has grown substantially, developed the Wexford campus through two significant expansions, and launched two new campuses. Orchard Hill has continued to serve the under-served throughout the community.

Kurt’s teaching can be heard weekdays on the local Christian radio and his messages are broadcast on two different television stations in Pittsburgh. Kurt is a sought-after speaker, speaking at several Christian colleges and camps. He has published a book with Moody Press called, Prayers For Today.

Before Orchard Hill, Kurt led a church in Michigan through a decade of substantial growth. He worked in student ministry in Chicago as well as served as the Director of Outreach/Missions for Trinity International University. Kurt graduated from Wheaton College (BA), Trinity Divinity School (M. Div), and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary (D. Min).

Kurt and his wife, Faith, have four sons.

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