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Bryce Vaught walks through Genesis 40–41, where Joseph is forgotten in prison for two more years, to show that God's kindness and purpose hold firm even when people let us down. For anyone facing a dead end, a delayed hope, or a letdown that won't lift, it's honest permission to grieve and a real reason to keep hoping.
Summary and Application
On October 22, 1844, tens of thousands of followers of a preacher named William Miller gathered expecting Jesus to return that night. Many had sold their homes, left their fields unplanted, and walked away from businesses and relationships. When morning came and nothing had happened, one follower wrote that their dearest hopes had been crushed and they wept until dawn.
Bryce opened with that moment, known as the Great Disappointment, because most of us know a smaller version of it. Disappointment runs from a frustrating day on the lake to devastating medical news, a marriage that feels loveless, or a career that seems to have hit a dead end. As Bryce put it, the question isn't whether disappointment will come, but when, and how we'll respond.
Joseph knew that terrain well. Favored by his father and hated by his brothers, he was sold into slavery, worked his way to the top of Potiphar's household, resisted temptation where Adam failed, and was rewarded with a prison cell. There he interpreted the dreams of Pharaoh's cupbearer and baker and asked one thing: remember me. Then comes one of the bleakest lines in his story: "The chief cupbearer, however, did not remember Joseph; he forgot him" (Genesis 40:23). Two full years pass (Genesis 41:1). From Joseph's response, Bryce drew four lessons.
Confront Your Reality
"Mention me to Pharaoh and get me out of this prison," Joseph tells the cupbearer. "Even here I have done nothing to deserve being put in a dungeon" (Genesis 40:14–15). Joseph is remarkably positive. He never grumbles or speaks badly of the people who wronged him. But being positive doesn't make him blind to his circumstances.
That matters, because many of us assume faith means never admitting we're disappointed. Bryce pointed to a rebranded prosperity gospel circulating online that promises flourishing in every season to anyone who thinks it, speaks it, or gives enough. That message doesn't empower people; it enslaves them. If life isn't flourishing, the fault must be yours.
Scripture tells a different story. There's an entire book called Lamentations, and the psalmists regularly lament. Grieving honestly keeps our hearts from clinging to what's temporary and turns our longing toward what's to come. In Bryce's words, it's okay that you're not okay.
Care for Others
Joseph didn't let disappointment become an excuse to quit. When he saw the cupbearer and baker were dejected, he asked, "Why do you look so sad today?" (Genesis 40:6–7). Who notices the sadness of two fellow prisoners? Someone who has spent enough time with them to read their faces.
Part of this is plain wisdom. Proverbs warns about the sluggard who never gets what he craves and who stays home because "there's a lion outside" (Proverbs 13:4; 22:13). Idleness tends to multiply our anxieties. Bryce shared the story of Thomas Edison, who watched his life's work go up in flames at 67 and treated it as a chance to rebuild bigger.
But Joseph wasn't just keeping busy. He genuinely cared. Community reminds us we're not alone. Couples in OHC's marriage groups often say they thought they were the only ones struggling. And it's good ground to sow into. We tend to reap what we sow (Galatians 6:7), often more than we planted and later than we hoped. Two years later, the cupbearer finally remembered the man who had cared for him.
Contemplate God's Kindness
Joseph asked the cupbearer to "show me kindness," and it didn't come. The danger is reading people's failures as God's. We put people on pedestals and expect from them what only God can give. But Joseph's hope rested elsewhere: "The Lord was with him; he showed him kindness" (Genesis 39:21).
God is abundantly kind to us through creation, culture, and community, and above all through Christ: "while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). When others forget us, we can rest in the kindness God has already shown.
Consider God's Purpose
When Joseph finally stands before Pharaoh, he explains that the dream came "in two forms" because "the matter has been firmly decided by God" (Genesis 41:32). That small verse reveals how Joseph understood his own two dreams back in Genesis 37. Through every setback, he held on to the conviction that this was not how his story ended.
Bryce compared it to watching a recorded game after already learning the final score. The ugly moments don't rattle you because you know how it turns out. In Christ, we've been given a glimpse of the ending too: "in all things God works for the good of those who love him" (Romans 8:28), shaping us into the likeness of his Son. Nothing is wasted.
Not the End of the Story
Even Joseph's story ends with disappointment. He dies, and Israel spends centuries enslaved in Egypt. Death is always a disappointing end. The disciples watching Jesus die surely felt that. But the resurrection shows that death isn't a deadline; it's a doorway into new life. For those in Christ, even the most disappointing ending is only the beginning.
Questions for Reflection
Where are you most tempted to pretend you're fine right now, and what might it look like to bring that disappointment honestly to God instead?
Who around you is quietly carrying a disappointment of their own, and how could you notice and care for them this week, even while you're still waiting on something yourself?
This post was developed with the assistance of artificial intelligence based on the sermon "Navigating Disappointment" by Bryce Vaught (Genesis 40–41, November 1, 2026). While every effort has been made to faithfully represent the content and intent of the original message, readers are encouraged to engage the full sermon audio or transcript for the complete teaching.
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Welcome, as always. It is so good to be together. This weekend we've officially reached the point on our calendar with what many consider the scariest day of the year, and that's voting day. I say that jokingly, because it seems like every time we get into an election cycle, the message is that this is the most important election, and if things don't go a certain way, then life is going to fall apart. I hope you do vote, but not out of a sense of fear, but out of great confidence in who God is, that he is in control, and that it is a great honor to participate and share your voice in the direction of our country.
Let's take a moment to pray as we get into the message, and pray for our country this week as well.
Father, we thank you for the opportunity we have to gather and to be a part of a country where we can vote and let our voices be heard. God, we ask that you would lead us, as your people and as a country, into a season where peace allows the gospel to be communicated and shared, and draws people to know you. As we turn to your word, we ask that you would fix our eyes on the Son, that we would behold him, that we would hear from him, and that in doing so, we would become more like him. In Jesus' name, amen.
A week ago this Friday, October 22, we hit the 182nd anniversary of what is known as the Great Disappointment. I know many of you are thinking, "I've been thinking a lot about that this past week, and I know exactly what you're talking about." But why don't you share what you think the Great Disappointment is? I'd be happy to.
About 182 years ago, there was a pastor named William Miller who decided, after lengthy study of Scripture, that Jesus would return on October 22, 1844. He initially guessed that it would happen on August 22, 1843. After it didn't happen, he recalculated and said it would be a year later. Surprisingly, he amassed a ton of followers. Estimates ranged from 50,000 to 100,000 people who believed in his calculated date of Jesus' return. These followers were committed. They were called the Millerites. Many of them sold their property and their homes. They stopped doing their crops. They sold their businesses and cut off relationships.
They all gathered on different hillsides across the country on October 22, planning that at midnight Jesus would return and they would be rescued, saved, and delivered into this new kingdom. August 22nd comes and goes, and Jesus doesn't return. Spoiler alert. On that day, people were devastated.
Think about it. Many of them had stopped planting their crops because they didn't think they would need food anymore. So they had no home, no jobs, no food, and very few relationships left. One of the followers wrote this in his journal: "Our fondest hopes and expectations were blasted, and such a spirit of weeping came over us as I never experienced before. We wept and wept till day dawned."
We all know what it's like to be disappointed in life. A lot of times, like this group of people, our disappointments are a result of unrealistic expectations or of setting our hopes on an idea that's false. But disappointment fills our life. It's part of not just our human experience, but our daily experience. We have disappointments that range from minor frustrations to life-altering crises. It's one thing to have a frustrating or disappointing day of fishing on the lake, and it's quite another to receive devastating medical news, or to be in a marriage that you feel has become loveless, or to feel like maybe you've reached a dead end in your career. We can dwell on these, and they can derail our life. The question is not if you will face disappointment, but when. How often will disappointment come your way, and how will you respond to it?
We continue in our series looking at the life of Joseph. We examine the life of a man who is intimately familiar with disappointment. We see a man who starts off as the favored son of his father, set on a pedestal and celebrated in a unique way. At the same time, he is hated and despised by his brothers to the point where they can't say one kind word to him. They devise a plan to first kill him, but then they sell him into slavery, where his life is now hopeless.
Despite that, he works hard enough over the course of time that he earns his way to a prestigious position in the home of Potiphar, where he is the main one in charge of everything. In Potiphar's house, it's almost like a replay of the Garden of Eden. You have Joseph, who, like Adam, is given full reign of his dominion, and he's withheld just one thing: Potiphar's wife. Then this temptation comes, and the writer poses this picture: will Joseph do what Adam couldn't do? Will he resist temptation? We see that Joseph does. He succeeds where Adam fails.
How is he rewarded for it? He's fired, he loses his home, and he's thrown into prison. Not just prison. The language actually shows us that he's thrown into a pit, similar to when his brothers threw him into a pit. After years of working his way back to the top, he's having to completely start over. And yet we see Joseph doesn't just give up. He starts doing what he did in Potiphar's house. We see that God is kind to him and gives him favor with the chief prison warden, to where Joseph becomes the main one over the rest of the prisoners. He's the one in charge of their care.
At the time Joseph is in prison, two more individuals are thrown in with him: Pharaoh's chief cupbearer and the chief baker. The cupbearer and baker held intimate positions for Pharaoh, because everything that made it to Pharaoh's plate or drink had to pass through the baker or the cupbearer. The cupbearer would taste or drink anything to make sure it was worthy for Pharaoh. Evidently something made it to Pharaoh that wasn't okay, and they didn't know who to blame it on, so they put both of them in prison. They're there, discouraged and distraught.
Then one night, both the cupbearer and the chief baker have dreams, and they're disturbed by them. They're confused and evidently very concerned the next morning. As Joseph is caring for them, he notices their sadness and says, "Hey, what's going on?" They say, "We had these dreams, and we don't know what to do with them." Joseph says, "My God interprets dreams." As they share the dreams with Joseph, he interprets them. He tells the cupbearer, "You're going to be re-elevated to your former position, right where you were before. And when Pharaoh brings you back, remember me. Help me get out of here, because I'm innocent. I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't do anything to deserve prison, so help me get out of here." For the chief baker, he interprets the dream as, "Pharaoh's going to take your life in three days." Bad news for you, Baker. But three days pass, and both things happen as Joseph said they would.
You can just imagine Joseph there thinking, "Any minute, any day, this cupbearer is going to help me get out of here." Days go by, weeks go by, months go by, and the chapter just ends with two years. The cupbearer forgot Joseph. At this point, he has to be thinking there's no hope anymore. Yet this isn't Joseph's first time dealing with disappointment. This is just the latest. I think there are some lessons Joseph learned throughout his journey that we can glean from his life to help us as we go through our own disappointments, to help us remain faithful and hopeful.
The first is this: in our disappointment, it's important to confront our reality. Look at what he says to the cupbearer after he interprets his dream. In chapter 40, verse 14, he says, "But when all goes well with you, remember me and show me kindness; mention me to Pharaoh and get me out of this prison. For I was forcibly carried off from the land of the Hebrews, and even here I have done nothing to deserve being put in a dungeon."
What's interesting is that as you read through the life of Joseph, it's evident that he's a very positive and optimistic man. He never complains or grumbles about his situation. He doesn't speak ill of those who've done him wrong. He doesn't speak badly about his brothers or Potiphar's wife. Even when the cupbearer forgets him, we don't hear him speak ill of the cupbearer. But just because Joseph is positive doesn't mean he's blind to his circumstances. I think this is important to point out, because a lot of times we think that in order to be a person of faith, we can't be negative at all. We can't look at our situation and feel disappointed, because to feel disappointed means you're not having faith.
In fact, I recently came across a video, and now my feed is full of people teaching a similar thought. It started with a term, maybe it's not new, called "biblical prosperity." I was interested when I first saw it. What does this mean? I'm curious. What I've come to see is that it's really just a rebranding of what has historically been known as the prosperity gospel. In one video I saw, they took a story out of Acts 16, where Paul encounters a demon-possessed girl who, through this demon possession, is able to tell the future of people, and she would get her masters a lot of money from people in the community. The video basically came to the conclusion that poverty is demonic. I'm thinking, well, that's a bit of a stretch. I don't think that's exactly what that passage is teaching.
But what we see is that the core tenet of this biblical prosperity, or prosperity gospel, movement is that God intends for you to prosper in health, wealth, and relationships, in every area of your life and every season of your life. Okay, fine. But then they couple that with the idea that it's not accidental and you can activate it right now: as long as you think it, speak it, expect it, as long as you by faith walk in obedience, or by faith sow into a specific ministry, you can expect that your life will prosper. And here's what happens. That doesn't empower people; it enslaves people. Because you don't allow people to feel their disappointment. In fact, if you're disappointed, if life isn't flourishing, it's not God's fault, it's yours. You need to think more positively, be more obedient, have more faith, give more, and then you can expect to flourish.
Yet God invites us to feel our disappointment. He invites us to sit in our disappointment and confront reality. There's a whole book of the Bible called Lamentations. The psalmists would often lament their situation. Lamenting and grieving your current disappointments is actually a healthy way to process this life, because it keeps our hearts from being attached to things that are temporary. It turns our hearts to desiring what's to come in eternity. It allows us to finally hope for what's better, and that's what Jesus is looking for. He teaches that even in the Gospels. I feel like someone needs to hear this weekend that it's okay that you're not okay. If you're disappointed or frustrated, that's a good thing to feel, because this world is not where we should be. Our hope and desire should be for the world to come. In our disappointments, it's important to confront them and realize it's okay. Joseph doesn't stay in his disappointments.
Another thing we can learn from his life is that in his disappointment, he took the time to care for others. Again, we see in this passage that he takes every opportunity. He doesn't just quit. That would be the easiest thing to do in this moment, after having to start over. But even in prison, he doesn't stop. He earns his way to some responsibility there. Then one morning, he sees the cupbearer and the chief baker, and it says this: "When Joseph came to them the next morning, he saw that they were dejected. So he asked Pharaoh's officials who were in custody with him in his master's house, 'Why do you look so sad today?'" I'm thinking, I don't know, because they're in prison. Shouldn't you be sad? But Joseph wasn't. He made himself busy and took the time to notice others.
Part of this is just wisdom. I'm reminded of the story of Thomas Edison. His son wrote a book about his dad's experience that at one point, when Thomas Edison was 67, his place of business burnt to the ground. His son sees the fire from a distance and runs to the scene, thinking, "My dad's going to be so devastated and disappointed. His life's work is gone, and he's going to have to start over." He sees his dad running toward him, and his dad shouts out, "Go get your mom and all her friends. They're never going to see a fire like this in their life!" The son thinks, what? It doesn't make any sense. But his dad just said, "This is a great opportunity to build back and do bigger things." It's the mindset that Joseph seems to live with: there is no such thing as a setback or a complete failure. It's just a new opportunity to do more. And there's some wisdom in that.
Joseph understands that the worst thing you can do in this situation is just quit and give up. There's a proverb that says the sluggard always craves and is never satisfied. Another proverb says that the sluggard sits in his home and says, "I can't go outside, because there's a lion in the streets." When you give yourself over to idleness or inactivity, your anxieties actually begin to multiply and grow bigger. Your disappointments become enlarged because you're not doing anything to make your situation better. Joseph understands that even though life is disappointing, if he keeps moving, something's going to change.
It's not just that Joseph is trying to busy himself so that he's distracted. He genuinely cares about people. He cares about the people he works for, and he cares about the people he lives with. Who would take the time to notice the sadness of two prisoners? Yet Joseph had spent enough time with them that he realized through their body language that they were sad. He takes the time to listen, to get to know them, to speak into their lives.
It's amazing. When you spend time in community, it allows us to keep a proper perspective. It reminds us that we're not alone in our disappointment, that our situation is not unique to us. It's always interesting. Every season that we re-engage and have married couples go through this course together, they do groups together. Every semester we hear couples say, "I thought we were the only ones dealing with this." Sometimes that feeling of isolation can be overwhelming, to think that nobody else has your problems, nobody else is struggling in the same way. That's just not true. When you find someone who is with you, it's a source of encouragement. And it's not just that they're with you. Community is a great ground for investment.
Throughout Scripture, there's a general wisdom principle that you reap what you sow. I'd say it's the law of sowing and reaping, but it's not a law in that it works perfectly every time. It's a general wisdom principle in that God has ordered life in such a way that you are able to reap what you sow. You invest, and you receive in return. We see this physically: you reap the same kind as what you sow. If you plant potatoes, you're not going to get zucchini. You tend to reap more than what you sow, and you tend to reap later than what you sow. It takes time.
I meet people all the time who go through a crisis and complain, "I went through this and nobody cared for me, nobody reached out to me, nobody loved me." Sometimes people are broken and they just fail. But sometimes it's because we've never taken the time to sow into relationships ourselves. Community is great ground to sow into, because you reap the benefit. When you sow into relationships, you get to know people. You care for them, you love them, and you end up receiving that in return. Joseph does this. He took the time to care for this cupbearer, and even though it didn't happen immediately, when two years go by and Pharaoh has a dream, the cupbearer remembers Joseph, because Joseph took the time to invest in someone else's life. We care for people.
We also learn from Joseph that it's important to contemplate God's kindness. We see again, after Joseph interprets the cupbearer's dream, he says, "When all goes well with you, remember me and show me kindness." All of a sudden this becomes problematic, because we know the cupbearer immediately forgets Joseph and doesn't show kindness right away. This can be problematic because a lot of times we treat how we are treated by people as an extension of how God treats us. For Joseph, this could be extremely disappointing, because God has given him this opportunity and it doesn't fall through; it doesn't actually help him. If Joseph isn't careful, he can interpret the cupbearer's lack of kindness as God's lack of kindness. Oftentimes we put people on a pedestal and expect from them what only God can give us.
But Joseph's hope is not in the cupbearer. His hope is not in the cupbearer's kindness, but in God's kindness. Looking back at chapter 39, when Joseph ends up in prison, verse 21 says, "The Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden." When people disappoint Joseph, he's not hoping in their kindness; he's resting in God's kindness. God is abundantly kind. He's kind to us through creation. He's kind to us through culture. He's kind to us through community. Maybe you're here and thinking, "I don't necessarily see God's kindness in my life." God has been abundantly kind to us through Christ. Paul says it this way in Romans: God shows his love for us in this way, that while we were still sinners, Jesus died for us. We can rest, when we fail to experience the kindness of others and we feel neglected and disappointed with the way things are going in life. We can remember what God has done for us in Christ, and we can rest in God's kindness.
Joseph contemplates God's kindness and rests in it. But he also considers God's purpose. Two years go by and nothing seems to be changing, but God is still working. One night, Pharaoh has two dreams, back to back. These dreams are troubling and concerning to him. He invites every wise man in Egypt to come and try to interpret them and give him some insight about what they mean. Nobody is able to tell him. All of a sudden the cupbearer remembers, "There's this man in prison who helped me, who interpreted my dream." So Joseph is brought from the prison before Pharaoh. Joseph interprets the dreams, saying, "Your two dreams really mean the same thing. God is telling you what he's going to do. There are going to be seven years of abundance followed by seven years of famine, and he's telling this to you so that you can prepare to survive those seven years of famine."
This next part at first seems like a throwaway verse, but Joseph says this to Pharaoh: "The reason the dream was given to Pharaoh in two forms is that the matter has been firmly decided by God, and God will do it soon." Again, that seems like a throwaway verse, but it's actually really important, because it gives us insight into Joseph's understanding of what God is doing in his life. He says the reason God gave Pharaoh two dreams is that he's shown you what he's going to do. For Joseph, two dreams is confirmation of what's about to take place. We can go back to the very start of Joseph's story and see that he has two dreams, two dreams that mean the same thing: that at some point he's going to be elevated to a position of authority, and his brothers and family will bow down before him. What this verse shows us is that for Joseph, those two dreams weren't just a coincidence. That was God's plan for him. In every stage of his life where he felt like he was experiencing setback or disappointment, he held onto this dream: this is not how things end for me. This is not the dead end that it appears to be.
I'm reminded of a story. I think I've shared it in some other context. Growing up in Arkansas, I was a big Razorback fan. A few years ago, when we were actually good at football, we had a big game on a Saturday, and we also had an event that day. It was right during game time, so my plan was that I had it recorded. I turned off my phone, no notifications. I wanted to get home and watch the game as if it was happening in real time. We went through that day and through the event, and everything was going well. We were finishing up and I was walking out the door when somebody caught me and said, "Hey, big win today!" I thought, you've got to be kidding. I was so close. I was twenty minutes away from watching the game live and experiencing the thrill of it. But as a fan, I wanted to go back and watch how it unfolded. What I noticed while watching that game is that it was really an ugly game, and the things that would normally have stressed me out didn't bother me, because I knew that we won.
God has given us a glimpse. Maybe you haven't had dreams that your life is going to end up on top, but God has given us a glimpse of what he's doing and what his purpose is for us. God sent Jesus to seek and to save the lost, and for those who are in Christ, Paul tells us in Romans 8 that all things work together for the good of those who love him. The good is that you would be conformed to the character of Jesus. That means every good thing you go through and every disappointment you go through is being used to build your character, to make you see Jesus, to hope in Jesus, and to be like Jesus. In Christ, nothing is wasted. He has an intention and a purpose to use you to reveal him to other people. It's amazing. Look back throughout history, and some of the greatest ministries have been birthed out of some of the deepest disappointments and heartaches. God is using you. He's using all things for our good, that we would know and be like Jesus.
Ultimately, we see that Joseph is elevated to second in command to Pharaoh, and his family does eventually make their way back to him. But if you read to the end of Genesis and the start of Exodus, we see that Joseph eventually dies, and the nation of Israel finds themselves in slavery in Egypt. It's a disappointing end. It's going well, and then, man, that's tough. They're in slavery for 400 years. It's one thing to experience disappointment when you're 30. It's another thing to experience disappointment when you feel like time has come to an end and things just end in a way that you don't expect.
Recently, both Brittany and I have each lost grandparents. It has caused us to reflect on the journey of life, and how even if you live a blessed, good life, if you age, eventually your body starts to deteriorate and your quality of life is diminished. It's just disappointing to see and remember what was, and to see where people end up. No matter what, death is a disappointing end. It's not the way things should be.
You have to imagine that Jesus' disciples, watching Jesus be crucified, were extremely disappointed. Here is a man who didn't sin against anyone, who was full of love and kindness and good works, who brought healing and this great message of hope to people. To see this young life taken down had to leave them hopeless and heartless. But that's not the end of the story. Jesus is raised from the dead to show us that even death, as disappointing as it is, is not the deadline. It's just a doorway into a new experience, into a new life.
We have this mentality that death is the finish line and that everything that happens after that is a frozen spiritual experience. But eternal life is full of opportunity and life, an opportunity to explore, to enjoy activity, and to enjoy creation the way it was meant to be enjoyed. So we have this great hope that even your disappointing end, in Christ, is not the end. It's just the beginning, and we have a lot to look forward to.
Let's pray.
Father, we thank you for this day. We thank you for this study of Joseph, that we get to evaluate his life and learn what it means to live with disappointment. God, for those who are facing heartache and frustration, I pray that you would help us to see you, to turn our attention from ourselves to the future that we can have in you, that we would come to know you and love you. We pray for the day that you return to make all things new. We pray that you would come quickly. In Jesus' name, amen.
Thanks. Have a good Sunday.
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